How to help yourself inВ aВ difficult moment. Invitation toВ aВ new life

Vladimir S. Lavrov

The life experience of many outstanding people teaches that it is the overcoming of difficulties that is the key to success in life. But to overcome difficulties – you need to overcome yourself! Overcome your negative thoughts, habits and weaknesses. How to do it, when emotions cloud your mind and do not let you see the true state of things, is told in this book.As an urgent psychological help, the book is recommended to all who are in a difficult situation and do not know how to get out of it.

How to help yourself inВ aВ difficult moment

Invitation toВ aВ new life

Vladimir S. Lavrov

© Vladimir S. Lavrov, 2018

ISBNВ 978-5-4493-3214-1

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Introduction

Oh, how many difficulties can fall to the share of each individual! Cheating, betrayal, betrayal, bullying, rudeness, beating, sickness, loss… Negative past, whether we want it or not, every man has!

How to let go of your past and learn to live the present? How to let go of the people for whom you once lived? How to learn not to cling to those people who have left? It’s not easy, but let’s learn it.

Think: why do you hold onto your past? Because it was good for you there? But where did you get that can not be better? Do not you realize that the roots of many of your problems lie in your attachment to the past? Release it – and many of your problems will disappear!

You were not born toВ suffer. You were born and live toВ rejoice, laugh, feel like aВ happy person and share your joy with the surrounding people. Therefore, your duty toВ people is toВ find aВ way toВ get rid ofВ suffering and start living again. No matter how hard you areВ now.

Yes, the losses hurtВ us. But the pain will pass if you release it. Just do not hold on toВ it. Do not think about it. And slowly, but surely get out ofВ the swamp, which turned out toВ be. Now is the best time for this.

P.S. Initially, the book was written inВ Russian and only after that it was translated into English. Due toВ the specific differences between Russian and English, the author could allow minor inaccuracies inВ the translation. Do not judge strictly, for the English language for the author is not native. If possible, treat indulgently with possible mistakes and wrong words inВ the text. Remember that only those who do nothing do not make mistakes! Try toВ understand the essence ofВ what the author wanted toВ say. Then you will get the most benefit from reading this book.

Chapter 1. The Swamp

How does it all begin?

All your problems, oddly enough, start with grievances.

Resentment is a feeling that arises when you think that you have been treated unfairly. They abandoned you, forced you to suffer, humiliated… And offended, you show that you want the attitude towards you changed. That you started to respect, appreciate, understand and love. But believe me, other people do not care about this… They are busy only with themselves. Unfortunately, this is the truth of life. And only you yourself can begin to respect yourself, appreciate, understand and love. It is unreasonable to demand this from others.

Why do you save your grievances? ToВ the next quarrel toВ get them and present toВ their offender! But believe me, he wanted toВ sneeze at your grievances! If you are offended byВ someone and can not forgive the offense, then it will only be worse for you. If you want toВ continue toВ suffer, then continue toВ take offense. But if you want toВ start toВ rejoice and live fully, choose not toВ be offended! Forgiveness is not necessary! Just choose not toВ be offended and do not be offended anymore!

How to do it? Yes, it’s very simple! You just need to understand that other people do not owe you anything! They do not owe you anything! They are not required to do what you want! They do not have to run after you and fulfill all your desires and whims! Learn to respect them! And then they will respect you too!

Think: why did you give po